Life as a daughter and daughter-in law

Saturday, if my hubby is not working, will be a standard ritual. Since its exam season and they are not down for CCA, we will be leaving early for Punggol to visit my mum after which we will proceed to Tampines to my FIL's house. Its always very fulfilling when I arrive at my sis house cos my mum is staying there, to hear the screaming voices of my three adorable nieces welcoming me. They will run to me and hug me screaming "Auntie Jat". Don't you just feel so good and so wanted. My mum, I love her so much for everything that she has done for me all these years, will always make sure that she will have something ready for us. Be it a simple noodle- Mee Goreng and wtever, its just for me and my family. She will always make sure that my family inclusive my hubby are comfortable and entertain us with lively conversation. Its really a time we enjoy being there. My mum would always prepare dishes for me to bring home All I need to do is to heat it up during the weekdays so that I do not hv to spend so much time cooking cos she really understand the demand of my work. I really appreciate all these that she has done for me. I truly love my mom for her all the sacrifices that she has made for me ... not just now but since a long long time that I can remember. Helping me out at times when I needed her most in terms of caring for my children, giving me the overall support. Too much. It is at this time of her life that I feel that as much as I cld, I wld make her life comfortable and easy. My mum thunderous voice and her contagious laughter wld fill my Sat afternoon. After the ritual at Punggol immediately after maghrib, we wld make our way to my FIL's hse at Tampines. Wt a difference in atmosphere. I had to struggle to control my emotions as he reluctantly holds out his hand for me to salam. I barely touch his palm as he pulls away. When my mum wld continuously ask us to eat..and eat... serve us with drinks and more drinks.. my FIL wld remain solemn... quiet and barely talk. So no invitation to eat.. no casual conversation..tense... I'm just thankful at times for my other in-laws who are there to occupy my time there. My kids make do with the cousins there.I can't wait to juz move away from the dining area and proceed to the room for the mini gathering with the sis-in-laws. The thing that I don't understand is why must he be so emo with all his children. Aren't you happy that your children are making the effort to spend their weekend, which is almost every weekend, visiting you. How many families can you find that pratice this kind of ritual. Every weekend visit the parents bringing their children. Yet you cannot even make the effort to show that you appreciate our effort. Even if you are upset with us for wtever reason that you may hv personally, don't you know hukum Islam dlm menyambut tamu. We may be regulars, but we are still guest in the house. I tried so much to please him in the past. I was so much the much liked daughter in law. But that was all the past. Things hv changed so much. So much so that I've asked my hubby why...
Do I want to get back wt I've lost? Or am I just the one being emo..